Divorce in Christian marriages?
Question by laura m: Divorce in Christian marriages?
Just curious if anyone is or has ever been in a situation where their spouse has wanted a divorce. My husband is talking out both sides of his mouth…he wants me as a friend and is attracted to me but doesn’t feel that we should have gotten married becuase we had so many problems. We are getting counseling now and we are both Christians. I do NOT want a divorce pretty much under any circumstance, but he feels that this may be the only way for him to be happy. It’s a HARD thing to go through, but I need to know what others have done who have not wanted a divorce but their spouses have. Christian marriages preferrably. Thanks
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Answer by cope_acetic@yahoo.com
Mine wanted one, I didn’t. He wasn’t “happy”, wasn’t sure he “loved me”…..
Then I found out he had someone else, so I let him go. I’d bet $ 100 yours has a piece also. (Christians are not immune to cheating)
Talking out both sides of his mouth is a man’s way of saying he doesn’t have the BALLS to tell you the truth.
Let him go….someday he’ll realize what he lost, but it will be too late.
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Hi,
I am currently reading a book called “Marriage, Divorce & Remarriage in the Bible”. It states that if you are both christians, you should take it to your Pastor or “church” for couseling. You should not seperate YET! You should seek marriage counseling from your pastor, and try to reconcile. I’ve learned that only when one is a “non-believer” THEN let him leave. But in your case, i’d talk to the pastor first!!
Good luck! There are two other books i recommend:
“The Power of the Praying Wife” and “Praying God’s Will for my husband. “
I’ve been in your shoes. Satan wants nothing more than to tear marriages apart. You need to learn to stand for your marriage and trust God to restore what the locust has eaten. See all the links below on how to stand for your marriage. If you have any questions, feel free to email me.
Please check out Bob and Charlyne Steinkamp. They have a restored marriage after being divorced for about two years. They have a website and send devotionals everyday encouraging men and women to stand for their marriage and their spouse’s salvation. Check out their archives.
https://rejoiceministries.org/devotion.php
I highly recommend that you sign up for Doreen’s Devotionals called Doreen’s Daily Delights.. These are awesome. http://marriagerestorationministries.org/
Here’s another website for people standing for their marriages. http://www.faithandmarriage.com/
Check out Jimmy and Karen Evans. They have a weekly tv show that discusses marriage. Their shows are on the internet that you can watch. Jimmy is excellent. Jimmy gives very practical guides on how to have a successful marriage. http://www.marriagetoday.org/ Maybe you can get your husband to watch this show.
Also check out this link concerning divorce and remarriage. I think you will be surprised. Many churches are blinded to the truth and even encourage people to divorce. Satan is tearing the church and marriages apart.
http://www.biblicalresearchreports.com/divorceandremarriage.php#hatedivorce
God Bless!
Biblically speaking God’s Word states that only in the case where the spouse requesting a divorce is a nonbeliever is the other spouse permitted to allow the spouse to leave…even if that case they are to remain single…if two Christian people divorce and then eventually remarry God’s Word states they are committing adultery…
your husband is living in the flesh…he isn’t living according to the Word of God…it is time for you to get on your knees and start praying like you have never prayed before and seek God’s wisdom!
Well, for one thing, what I know about christian marriages is that they are supposed to be forever. The only true grounds that a christian person is supposed to be allowed a divorce is if either one or the other has committed adultery.There was a time, many years ago now, where you couldn’t get a divorce unless both parties consented to it.
OK…I’m in your situation, only vice versa. i want the divorce. I’m a christian, he’s catholic. we do nothing but argue about almost everything, however the physical attraction is and probably always will be there. it’s just not enough to live a life of misery and good sex for me. i want the full monty. he is completely in denial about anything on his part being wrong too. it’s like i just up and left one day for no apparent reason, even though i begged and pleaded for a change and counseling for about a year. well, i left him and he finally agreed to go to counseling…what?! needless to say i caved and went, the 1st appt was a disaster. i don’t know if this will save our marriage, but i do know that I’m tired of being hurt. i want and deserve to be loved completely…with or without him.
i don’t know if this helped you at all, but it helps me to vent.
blessings and luck to you and your future
I am a Christian but I must agree. Divorce is terrible but staying in a marriage with someone who doesn’t love you will only make things worse. At least, you’ll give yourself a chance to find someone who can return your love. Maybe your current husband is not who you are meant to be with after all.
Sorry but Christian in or not Christian, you can not hold down a person who does not want to be with you. You can act christian and live a miserable life or use common sense and live a less miserable life……