Need Direction In My Life. Not Sure Where I Belong. Christian,divorced After Long Marriage. 5 Yrs Now,?
I love helping people and am friendly, however, no one has helped me, have no fam of origin i hear from, have estranged daughter in TN. just got temp custody of granddaughter who we just got into a wonderful christian children’s home in orlando. son has disability low iq & moved in w/ women whose having baby at 42 ,treated my granddaughter horrible & son never said a word. i live in NY in a studio & in mobile home in FL.which i don’t like & have to pay all yr. there’s no one for me, all older couples & i never get any help. have few friends but they always have there fam visiting. i only get SSD & sm support ea mo. I would like to have advise from someone who has been there. I’m overwhelmed w/ taking care of 2 places, can’t find christian’s to fellowship with in fl or ny. i really hurt. going to fl next tues for 5 wks. & am having car shipped as i have no other way, place needs bathrooms completely done over, can’t find write licensed contractor & insured. i just don’t no what to do.
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essential distraught not knowing and thinking no one cares the day will come and soon it will be that you might find someone you should change your habits
Take a deep breathe. I can tell from your post you are overwhelmed and stressed. I would reccomend finding a church to visit. Even if you are unsure if you will like it. Pull out the phone book or do a google search (google.com); all you have to do in google is type church, (insert city & state). It will pull up churches in that area. You need fellowship and the only way to get that is to find a church. When you find one call them to find out services and tell them you will be coming to the area and when. I would even suggest you ask if the minister or priest would be willing to visit your home when you are there. You can have them pray with you, add you to a prayer list and ask for support from other members of the church. It is not a handout but when you are to the point you are you need to ask someone for help even just emotional. Also be thankful for what you have (I don’t mean that in a mean way just reminding). Also remember that you can’t change people, their decisions or their actions; you can only change how you choose to react to the situation or person. I know all will work out for you; seek a church, pray and put in God’s hands your burdens.
Something I have always lived by: God sees the end result of all hardships, he knows every piece of it and sees the end. It is often that we become overwhelmed because we can’t see the end or the end we see is just disaster. Trust that the hardships are but a test and the end is of each challenge is a reward.
well first off save your money and drive your own car down to fl. sell your placein NY or FL what ever you dont’ want. and stay in one place make new friends, look on line for christian to fellowship with instead of yahoo answers.
there are tons of people like you.
and sadly the first thing that comes to my mind to say to you is
your not a victum and nothing will be handed to you. if your nice and loving to people to get that in return then y our most selfish as the kinds acts were done purly for a return feeling.
you keep stating how you can’t seem to find stuff. i have to ask what steps and where have you looked?
Here is a list of licensend contractors in florida http://www.yellowbook.com/yellow-pages/?…
yellow pages has a lot of options for you!
after all this is said i also suggest you get help seek someone who will talk with you a pshcoygogist or someone. i see that you want something but you haven’t stated what you want and it’s hard to get what you want when you dont even know what you want.
start slow it will get better!
Your question is somewhat convoluted. It in all likelihood mirrors your life. I believe you need to sit down and remove a lot of the clutter in your life. You are spread out over half the eastern side of the country and trying to help your children at the same time. I think that since you divorced 5 years ago you have been trying to fill the void with all kinds of things. First I believe you have to choose where you want to live, N.Y or Florida. Then you can concentrate the savings of not maintaining 2 residences into one. Your children, from what I can make out, are all well into adulthood capable of making their own decisions and living with the consequences of their decisions. I think you need to prioritize your life. I, too am a christian and enjoy the fellowship of my church. You need to get out and actively search and visit places of worship in your denomination. I think if you simplify your life a little and get rid of a lot of the unnecessary things and people in it you will find God will start putting things in place for you. Remember, we are at our worse when we try to steer the ship, let go, and let GOD. He made you , He knows you and He knows what’s best for you if you let Him.
Long relationship huh ? Five years, huh ? I would suggest that you quit feeling sorry for your self ! I have been married over 40 years and have gone through much more than you and I am not complaining ! If you still have your Christianity, I would suggest you talk to your Lord, and Maker……………..
Slow down and take it one step at a time ! Things have a way of working themselves out for those that are patient
Obviously your diety of choice did not serve you well. First thing out of the shoot, get a new spirit. If you like the idea of revenge, Aztec gods tend to go for the “rip your heart out effect”, the Norse gods are more into trees and such, some of the Indian gods have interesting effects associated with them especially when it comes to landlords. Obviously you owe a disservice to some god out there for messing up your son. Not apparent you really like your neighbors. Sounds like the rest of the family can’t stand being around you, might need to overhaul your whole philosophy.
Think maybe the religion of choice is the wrong one all around.
Not really knowing you Joani, I don’t know if I can give you the right answer,but I divorced my first wife almost 14 years ago, I went through several stages, the first one was disbelief, then I blamed myself, i then had deep saddness, and the last one took me almost 2 years to finally get over, was the bitterness. I hated her, I was married almost 10 years, I made alot of mistakes, I dated before I was really ready, but one thing I did have, I was a Christian, which you say you are. Joani, if I could give you one piece of advice to cut through the chase, stay close to the Lord, when you cry, cry to the Lord like you’re crying to your father, I found out from how this just how much he did love me, it was his love and grace that got me through this. When it was all over, I had a closer fellowship, I will be keeping you in my prayers, I know your going to have hard days, but I’m praying God’s love would warm and comfort you!