Does A Divorced Christian Have To Wait Until Marriage Again To Have Sex?
4 Parts… 1) I know Christians must abstain from sex until marriage, but what if you get divorced? You’re already not a virgin anymore, so do you have to wait until you marry again to have sex? 2) Can you sleep with your former partner after getting divorced without sinning? [It happens.] 3) Also, isn’t divorce a sin? Does that mean you can just go ahead and do it anyway since you have already sinned? 4) Lastly, if you are Christian and are married, isn’t it wrong to use contraception? Wouldn’t that mean the possibility of pregnancy every time you have sex? Not personal questions, I just have no understanding and a curious mind. Thanks.
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Yes. You have to wait to be married again to have sex, and unless your former spouse is dead, you are still considered an adulterer or adulteress. You cannot have sex with a former anything unless you are married. Also, without Jesus Christ and his forgiveness of all of our filthy habits and sins, we are all damned. If you have not made peace with God, please do not wait another second.
They did not take a vow , ” To forsake all others ’till divorce do us part ” . A vow on your honor and your God , ” to forsake all others ’till death do us part ” means death , not divorce .
To have sex with anyone other than the first on you married , unless that person dies , is the same as crapping on your God . Please get ready for a lot of free heat – - zillions of years of it .
A divorce christian can marry again only if the divorce was because of adultry by the other partner. Otherwise they can never marry again.
No sex before marriage period does not matter.
is it wrong to use contraception? NO
Divorce is a sin, kid. The Christians think “once married, always married to the same person”. Therefore, having sex with anyone else is ALSO a sin.
morally
christians are not suppose to have sex before marriage
and if they are not married anymore the sex is over,
anytime you are not married according to the word of God you need not have sex..I am divorced and sex free…
1. No. The issue isn’t that losing your virginity is the problem, and once you’ve lost your virginity you can do whatever you want. The issue is that when you sleep with somebody else, you become “one flesh” with them, creating strong physical, emotional and spiritual ties with them that are designed only for marriage. See 1 Corinthians 6: 15-16 “Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ himself? Shall I then take the members of Christ and unite them with a prostitute? Never! Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? For it is said, “The two will become one flesh.” It talks about prostitutes here, but the example holds for any kind of extramartial sex.
2. If you make up with them and you remarry, sure. Otherwise no. Among other things, this is sex without commitment, which is the wrong way to do sex.
3. No. Romans 6: 1-2 “What shall we say, then? Shall we go on sinning so that grace may increase? By no means! We died to sin; how can we live in it any longer?”
4. According to the Catholic church, it is wrong to use contraception during sex, even when you’re married. Protestants don’t have any such rule.
1) Yes, you should always try to do what is right, regardless of the outcome or circumstances.
2) If you are still sleeping with them, why did you get a divorce. Divorce should not be taken lightly, and marriage shouldn’t be regarded as something you can just “throw away”. Most divorces come from marriages where God was never involved in the first place. Statistically, only 1 in about 1000 end in divorce for couples who pray together at least 3 minutes a day. Marriages fail because people don’t go about it the right way, for the wrong reasons, or are too immature and selfish.
3) Yes, God doesn’t like divorce, but allows for it. He would much rather you turn to Him wholeheartedly (both husband and wife together) and let Him heal you marriage, but if you aren’t going to do that then you might as well divorce. Also, God wouldn’t want anybody to stay in an abusive marriage of course.
4) No, I’m not a catholic, but I know of no one that doesn’t approve of contraceptives. Especially if you cant take care of, would neglect, get an abortion, or not raise your children in good Godly principles, then please use contraceptives.
Sex outside of marriage is always a sin. I think if you just keep that in mind, you won´t have quite so many questions.
Next, a big surprise to a lot of Christians is that Jesus actually said that getting a divorce causes you and your ex to become adulterers. (Matthew 5:32)
There are only two ways out of a marriage for a Christian: your spouse dies, or he/she cheats on you. Nothing else is excused by God. (Your spouse will not be excused for cheating on you, but you will be excused for divorcing him/her.)
As for your fourth question, the Bible doesn´t speak about that. I don´t know how anyone could give a very definite answer. They´d just be guessing.
*** I really like Cookiemo´s answer, but there is just one more thing to add to that. The Bible does say that if you divorce your wife and then have sex with someone else, you cannot go back to your wife as if you were still married. You have destroyed that union. If you were divorced and neither of you committed adultery with anyone, then you could reconcile with each other and be reunited.
1. A divorced Christian should abstain from sexual activity unless they get remarried.
2. If you are no longer married to your former partner, you should not have sex with them unless you remarry them.
3. Divorce in itself is not a sin, but sin usually leads to divorce. If one partner in a marriage commits adultery and wants out of the marriage, has the other partner commited a sin even though the marriage ended in divorce? No, of course not.
4. I don’t think God cares one way or another about contraception. This is a Catholic Church issue—sticking their nose where it doesn’t belong. Whether to use contraception or not is a choice each couple gets to make for themselves.
okay. Lets talk about sin a little.
yes the bible says its wrong to divorce. yes its wrong to have sex out of marriage.
Now the reason the bible even talks about sin and what to do and what not to do… is NOT to damn us. Its not there so we screw up. It says these things to help us lead a better life. When you think about it divorce is NEVER easy. So many things go wrong. Sometimes there are children who are affected, someone is hurt terribly, its expensive.
Some wedding ceremonies use unity candles to represent what marriage is.. however I think sand is the best. The groom pours black sand into a glass vase while the bride pours white into the vase. The result is a grey color. What this shows is that the two are one. Imagine trying to separate the black from the white?? Sure after many hours you could PROBABLY do it, however it would be very difficult.
As a christian you do not refrain from sinning so that you don’t get “punished”. The purpose of following the bible is that you can live a better life and to also show God your love. One way that I show my parents that I appreciate all they have done for me is try to live the life they taught me to, and the same goes with God. It is never “ok” to sin even though you have been sinning. Refraining from sin is for our own good, because nothing good comes from it.
and no its not wrong to use contraception when married. Sex was created for marriage I believe.. for the two to enjoy each other and have that intimacy. It also happens to be the way to create children.
What happens when there is NO abuse in the marriage. What happens when the real reason for divorce was so that she wouldn’t have to put up with my type of priorities like buying a home for us, raising our son to be a man and teaching him to own up to his manhood. What if I have a brain injury and she couldn’t handle the “NON abusive changes” that often occurs in a marriage from a brain injured spouse? What if she is too proud to realize that she is doing wrong? If she is sinning, I don’t care! That’s her business with God. ? To me, the divorce filing is very illegal and not complementive to God. All I want to know is that how am I to accept these divorce filings when God will not?
This isn’t necessarily what I believe, but it is the Catholic perspective. Read on…
1. It depends what sect of Christianity you’re talking about, but from a Catholic perspective, there is no such thing as divorce. There is only an absolving of marriage. If you get a divorce, you are still recognized as being married within the church (since marriage is a Sacriment) and any sex outside of that relationship is considered adultery. In addition, any sex outside of the bonds of marriage would obviously also be considered a sin, even if the marriage is absolved.
2. Since the Church doesn’t recognize divorce without absolving the union, it would not see sex between divorced persons as adultery. However, since the intent would not include the openness to have children, it would be sinful sex. Sex is for procreation as well as to join the union of two souls.
3. Yes, divorce is a sin. It renders asunder what God has joined. If you can prove before your bishop that your union was ungodly and not a true Sacriment (my parents did this, which was very painful for me) then you can have the marriage dissolved. People usually do this when they want to be remarried and have it accepted by the Church. No, you cannot just “go ahead and do it-” obviously you should try to sin as little as possible in life.
4. The Catholic church is outspoken in its opposition to contraception. Their belief is that every sexual encounter should include the possibility of children, and should be within the confines of marriage.
These are pretty strict guidelines, but that’s part of religion, folks!
[edit] Geez, what’s with all the thumbs down? The questioner asked what the Christian perspective was and I gave a very detail-oriented response based on what the church I was raised in professes! Yeesh!