If I am a christian is divorce wrong for Christians?
Question by tdc: If I am a christian is divorce wrong for Christians?
I am married to a man that I love but am not in love with. I am still in love with my first love and in the future will have the opportunity to reconnect. I know several devout Christians that have divorced and remarried. Should I stay married just for the sake of religion?
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you may divorce him, but if you choose to do so, remain celibate.
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If you follow the bible, convince your husband to leave you and become an old maid. But no need, you can simply ignore that part of the bible and divorce if you want to like so many other christians do.
The bible allows divorce in the case of adultery. If your husband is faithful to you, you should remain married according to the bible.
If your a Christian why has your church not taught you the answer ?
Don’t they teach the bible in Church ? This is basic I would have thought all you Christians would know what the bible teaches.
The bible teaches the only grounds for divorce is adultery.
Do they teach you Christians any thing from the bible ?
Divorce always destroys everything so I hope your first love truely is available. Society doesnt care but its a matter for your own religious conscience.
It is not necessarily wrong per se. But it is always sad.
However, your question mentions nothing that is a Biblical justification for divorce. After all, over the course of a marriage, there are likely to be times when “better options” may seem to be available. But that doesn’t make violating one’s vows Biblical.
But staying married should be “for the sake of religion”. It should be for the sake of DOING RIGHT and OBEYING GOD, a very different concept.
If you truly care what God says about divorce, I recommend that you investigate one of David Instone-Brewer’s books on this subject. He has both scholarly and layperson versions of his years of research on the Bible’s teachings on divorce and remarriage.
Keep in mind that considers you and your spouse ONE FLESH. Also, “God hates divorce” is just that starkly stated in the Bible. Should the Christian volunteer for something which God hates? There is a big difference between ACCEPTING a divorce imposed upon one by a sinful spouse. It is another issue entirely to BE the sinful spouse who breaks the marriage vow. And the stakes are lifelong. Deliberate disobedience of the commands of God has severe consequences. Does God bless sinful choices? Can happiness be found by disobeying God and hoping that God nevertheless will bless a sinful choice. (Can we expect God to do that which is contrary to his holiness?)
But perhaps most important of all. Is the purpose of life to BE HAPPY? The Epistle to the Hebrews says that Christ learned obedience through his suffering — and his followers are to do likewise. We are told to “take up one’s cross daily and follow him.” Does that sound like Christ wants us to be focused on our happiness? Frankly, no, that is what I found as I dug into the Bible. In eternity there is opportunity for total fulfillment — but I find no evidence in the Bible that my personal happiness is a high priority for the follower of Jesus Christ. So even if I know that obedience to God may mean forgoing something which I THINK will make me happy, that is something which God may expect of me. Pleasing myself is simply not a priority in terms of God’s will for my life.
often times we remember the love that we had beofre with our first love…
Tell me this first of all.. why did you get married to the love that you have now???
this is the most important question…
If you have loved your current spouse before it means that you have a SPIRITUAL problem, and that no matter what you do, you will always have that spiritual problem unless you seek counseling to fix it… even if you think that there is no problem, divorce is not the answer…
Chances are that you will find yourself in the same quandry much later lin life and you will have gained no ground.
If you had used the word ‘God’ instead of ‘religion’, it would’ve sounded more like you’ve studied up about what the bible says. Don’t do anything for the sake of ‘religion’. Do it for God. A christian couple focuses on God and not on each other or themselves, that’s why the bible does not support divorce. However if you feel God’s plan takes you elsewhere, go for it.
God said that divorce is a sin. So no you shouldn’t.It would be a sin. But there are many things that are sins that we do everyday. But knowing that it is a sin you shouldn’t do it out of love for God.
Divorce is wrong for everybody; it doesn’t matter if you’re a Christian or not.
Look at all the children who have only one parent. Many times they feel guilt, as though it were there fault; many times there is depression that follows; and in all cases, the child is learning from watching their parents that divorce is an acceptable solution – run from your problems, be a quitter, cheating is acceptable!
You should stay married unless your spouse cheats on you, but reconciliation and redemption is God’s first plan.
marriage is a gift from God & not something to be taken lightly. if you are a practicing Christian, you wouldn’t even have to ask such a question. sounds like a selfish reason to even consider ending your marriage. and think about how you would feel if the tables were turned.
God’s view of divorce is clearly shown at Malachi 2:16 and Matthew 19:3-9. And God’s view of adulterers (since some use adultery as a way to end a marriage) is shown at 1 Corinthians 6:9.
Jesus condemned divorce.
Separation can only be allowed if there is some abuse or danger involved.
Love is not a feeling, but a decision. It is in the will. No matter how much “in love” persons may be, in the beginning, most marriages have a “falling out of love”. Many stay after this, but others jump ship. This is because of commitment (or lack of it) – a promise, a vow, and often also because of the children involved.
Your commitment to your religion should be based on your commitment to God. If you care about what God thinks of deserting one man for another (ie adultery), then the question answers itself. If you don’t, then adultery is your chosen path.
The sin remains a sin, however, whether you choose to see it like that or not.
You are very lucky to be married to a man you love, and would be foolish to throw it away for something unknown.
God bless.
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