Divorce Among Christians
Divorce among Christians are on the rise. I don’t mean to sound insensitive or calloused, but allow me to pinpoint some reasons why divorce among Christians are increasing. There are only two reasons: 1. we got married for the wrong reasons, and 2. we’re divorcing for the wrong reasons as well.
Why did you marry your spouse? Was it because he was charming or sweet or easy to talk to? Was it because she was a good house-keeper or a good cook or dependable? I’m not saying that these qualities are bad or should not sought after for a spouse. But if these are your only reason, then you’ve indeed married for the wrong ones. The problem lies not just in the person but more so in the situation. While in the courtship stage, we would show off our good qualities so that the opposite sex will surely fall for us. We would give our time; we would encourage; we would submit. But once after the wedding, we would change and show forth our true self…we grab, instead of give; we belittle instead of encourage; we demand instead of submit. We would always think of things that we can “get” from our marriage rather than invest on it. And when things gets too painful to handle, we seek for divorce lawyers. And thus leads us to divorcing for the wrong reasons.
Divorce among Christians are not as unique as divorce in the general public. Reasons like “I’ve fallen out of love”, “I’m in love with someone else” or “irreconcilable differences” has been used both by believers and non-believers. But for a believer to claim these reasons is divorcing for the wrong ones.
If you are going through the rocky hills of marriage, allow us to help you. Maybe your marriage just needs a little tweaking rather than just throwing it all into the trash. If I may recommend, please look in on our article about Biblical Reasons for Divorce. And if you have any questions, please do call us. We’re here to help you!
